Marriage

Who can marry

Bachelors: Alex, Elliott, Harvey, Sam, Sebastian, Shane. Bachelorettes: Abigail, Emily, Haley, Leah, Maru, Penny.

Any of the twelve can date, in any mix of genders. Pages are for Stardew Valley 1.6.x.

• Gift tables
• Heart events

Dating

The morning after a marriage candidate first reaches 8 hearts, Pierre mails you about the bouquet. It costs 200g at Pierre's General Store.

The bouquet unfreezes that person's hearts and sets the social status to boyfriend or girlfriend. You can give a bouquet to more than one candidate. That does not lower friendship before a proposal.

The bouquet is 25 friendship, and it does not use the day's gift. Give it before you talk or hand over a normal gift, and those still count. You can give it only once to each candidate. Under 4 hearts they say they do not know you well enough. From 4 hearts up to, but not including, 8, they say they are not ready.

Before the bouquet, points can sit at 2,249, just under 9 hearts, and those points do not decay. After the bouquet, a day without a talk costs 10 points, and that loss stops once the meter is full at 10 hearts.

Group 10-heart scene

Each group scene plays once per save. It needs you unmarried, a bouquet given to all six bachelors or all six bachelorettes, 10 hearts with each of them, and each of their 10-heart scenes already seen.

Bachelorettes meet you when you walk into Haley and Emily's house at 2 Willow Lane. If Haley's own 10-heart scene is the last of those six, the group scene starts the moment hers ends. Bachelors meet you when you walk into the Stardrop Saloon. If Alex's 10-heart scene is the last of those six, the group scene starts the moment his ends. Have the rabbit's foot in inventory before that last scene if you want the friendly version.

With a rabbit's foot, the bachelorette scene is gossip about Lewis and Marnie, and the bachelor scene is a game of pool. Without it, they give you the cold shoulder for about a week: angry lines, and they refuse gifts. Friendship points do not drop. They can still mail a gift, and a help-wanted job from them still pays.

The scene does not start if you are married, if one of them has accepted a Mermaid's Pendant, or if one of them has accepted a wilted bouquet. A roommate arrangement with Krobus does not block it.

• Heart events
• Rabbit's Foot

Wilted bouquet

A wilted bouquet ends dating. Put a normal bouquet and one coal in a furnace. It finishes when the clock reaches the next 10-minute mark. Friendship drops to 5 hearts, 1,250 points. You can still talk and give gifts afterward.

Handing one to a spouse is refused. Giving one to anybody in a set of six also keeps that group scene from starting.

Proposal

The day after you reach 10 hearts with a marriage candidate, Lewis mails you about the Mermaid's Pendant. Give the pendant to propose. The wedding is marked on the calendar.

The Old Mariner sells the pendant for 5,000g. He stands at the beach tide pools on rainy days. Reach the pools by repairing the bridge for 300 wood, or by buying Robin's second community upgrade. In winter he appears only if a Rain Totem is used.

He sells the pendant only if the farmhouse has been upgraded at least once, you are at 10 hearts with an eligible villager, and you are not already married.

Once the pendant is accepted, every other marriage candidate's heart meter goes back to the rules from before the engagement. The social tab still shows who took a bouquet. A 10-heart scene can still start after the wedding for someone who already took one.

The wedding

The ceremony is the morning, 3 days after the proposal. A proposal on Monday the 1st means the ceremony when you wake on Thursday the 4th. It is delayed if that morning is a town-square event or Green Rain. The day is sunny, and the weather icon is a heart.

Afterward you and your spouse are at the farmhouse at 6am. Friendship can rise to 14 hearts. It falls by 20 points on a day with no contact. A spouse can take a gift every day, and the friendship change from that gift is halved.

Jealousy

After the wedding, a gift that is not a hated gift can make your spouse jealous. The receiver has to be someone who already accepted a bouquet, and the same gender as your spouse. A bachelor's spouse reacts to gifts to other bachelors. A bachelorette's spouse reacts to gifts to other bachelorettes.

The chance is 20 to 40 percent and moves with daily luck. A birthday gift does not do it. A delivery quest does not count as a gift. Jealousy costs 30 friendship, and the next conversation is an angry line about that gift.

Calendar traps

Count three mornings from the day you give the pendant. If that morning is a town-square event or green rain, the ceremony waits for a morning that is neither. The wedding day is sunny anyway, and the weather icon is a heart.

In year 1, the summer green rain turns gifts off for that day. It falls once, on one of Summer 5, 6, 7, 14, 15, 16, 18, or 23. Since 1.6.4 that gift lock is in the game.

The Flower Dance on Spring 24 asks for four hearts before a candidate will dance. Under four hearts, they refuse.

• Weather
• Flower Dance
• Festival dates

Krobus

Krobus moves in three days after he accepts a Void Ghost Pendant. Buy it from the Desert Trader for 200 void essence once you have 10 hearts with him, or find it as a monster drop in the Skull Cavern or the Quarry Mine. In 1.6 you can obtain more than one. You cannot obtain it while married or engaged.

There is no ceremony. He adds a room and does not build a backyard area. Hugging replaces kissing. He is not jealous of gifts to marriage candidates, and the group 10-heart scenes can still happen. He does not do spouse chores. You cannot have or adopt children with him. He will help raise children already in the house.

Evict him for free from the book in the Mayor's Manor. After he leaves he will not take gifts. The Dark Shrine of Memory in the Witch's Hut erases that memory for 30,000g, the same offering used for an ex-spouse.

• Krobus gifts
• Children

Divorce

The book in the Mayor's Manor files a divorce for 50,000g. You can cancel the same day, until 10pm when Lewis's house closes. The next morning the spouse, the spouse's room, and the unique backyard are gone. Friendship is 0 hearts and the name is marked ex. An ex will not take gifts.

Children stay in the farmhouse. Items left in the ex's room are boxed into a chest. Heart events already seen do not play again if you remarry that person.

The Dark Shrine of Memory erases ex-spouse memories, and Krobus's if he was a roommate, for 30,000g. If you are expecting a child and divorce, the child is not born.

• Prismatic Shard
• Turning children into doves